Do you feel complete? Complete as a person? a mother? a friend? a wife? a daughter?
Lately I have been feeling very incomplete. I know that there will always be a void- I think that I just need to start doing things for me. It is so important that we women take time for ourselves. I'm pretty sure that you have heard this a lot, but do we actually do it? Probably not, right?
My sister recently had to make a real hard decision for herself and her family to go back to work or to stay home with their little girl. I felt horrible that I was telling her that "Hey, it's only 80 days a year, you will put your mark on the world". But that is not what she needed to hear. She has waited 8 years for a baby and this is her chance to stay home and do what she has dreamed to do. She is such an inspiration to me and many moms out there. She is so creative and my goodness, can come up with the most amazing ideas. I honestly don't know how she has the energy sometimes. I spoke with her yesterday and she was still not sure what to do. I told her,"Your daughter is your mark on the world. Take all that energy that you would spend on teaching and put that in her.She is what makes you complete." I hoped that I helped make that decision a little easier. But then I turned the table on me.
I was watching GTU last week and they mentioned 10 things that women waste their time doing. I was pretty shocked to see that the number one thing was talking on the phone and you should put a time limit of 2 minutes per call. I thought about this being absolutely ridiculous. 2 minutes!! What can you possibly say to someone in 2 minutes? Well, all you need to say- the lady on GTU explained that when we talk past the 2 minute mark, the gossiping gal in us seems to ooze out and we end up talking about what really doesn't matter. I think that I will be trying this so if you call and I say, "Times up!" please don't get offended. It is time that I could be with my kids or taking a bubble bath or reading a great book(not me per say). Just time for me!
I need to be a better friend, better wife, better mother, but most of all a better person. I think that if we can make an effort to be a better person that all the other betters will fall into place. My true quest will be complete when I am holding Tay Tay in my arms. Until that time, we need to take each day for what it is for we will not get today again.
3 comments:
I think all of us are faced with hard decisions in are life. We turn to friends and family to help us out, but deep down we have to make the decision ourselves. That is a tough thing to do most of the time. Pray and it will be revealed. Put trust in the Lord and all things fall into place. I don't think I could talk to you for only 2 minutes, but I respect that.
I think that is great advice you gave Keri! I agree taking time for youself is very important, but yet I never do Im always to busy with the kids or something for the kids or something for the hubby. Its hard I find myself even taking a bath quickly or not doing a task completely because I don't want to miss something the kids are doing or someone is fighting...its usually the fighting!
YOur a wondeful, fantastic, beautiful mom don't ever doubt that for a second!!!!
ah julie, you are too nice to me! i know that being with jackie is the most precious gift i could ask for.. and when you think about it, if you could have more of any ONE thing, wouldn't it be TIME? so we'll forgo the fancy trips and tons of toys AND i'll just spend the TIME with her that i never will get back. BTW- i am working on a new pic for this page!
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